If youve explained that to him and he doesnt care or doesnt have any interest in meeting your needs, theres not a ton you can do. If youre not into the family bit, I would suggest not dating someone who completely is. I agree with the expenses. She says but I cant seem to get my boyfriend to understand that I dont want to spend weekend nights at their place more often than maybe once a month. So, we dont have a failure to communicate, we have a failure to reach agreement on how they should spend their weekends. June 18, 2014, 12:30 pm. It definitely sounds like there are some boundary setting issues here, but IDK dysfunctional is a stretch. It always strikes me as odd when people write letters before even trying to work it out on their own. Say that you enjoy spending time with his parents but you really miss your city weekends, so youd prefer to stay home except for maybe once a month. ForeverYoung Now, if ever, is a time when sitting at home binging on a favorite show on Netflix should be an acceptable and normal way to spend the weekend. In this situation, with a fairly long commute, this guy is devoting if not the entire weekend to seeing his parents, then at least a huge chunk of it. Once upon a time when you were little, mom and dad did know more than youbut entering adulthood is when you yourself should be acquiring knowledge just as your parents did. Different strokes for different folks. You even noticed thatyour husband wants to visit his family without you. I lived in his hometown and so did his parents. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. Like I said before, I get along great with them and dont mind visiting them, but I also need privacy and a chance for my boyfriend and me to have a separate life from them. My parents have an awesome house with a huge yard with bike, 4 wheelers, space for baseball, a pool, tennis court (now I sound spoiled)if we lived close enough Id rather hang at their house than our little apartment. I wouldnt enjoy seeing my in-laws, let alone my own family, every weekend. ), and just talk about the big issues in general money, social life, work, goals, values, etc. January 20, 2012, 9:27 am. I can see it both ways. June 18, 2014, 10:17 am. January 20, 2012, 3:04 pm. Play frisbee in the park! If you feel like youre not the priority, then you almost certainly arent. You have the option of talking to him about it-without that context (this is weird, grow up), and from the place where your needs are not being metaka Honey, it would mean a lot if instead of both Friday and Saturdays you are home, spending all day with your family, we set aside a block of one of those days for just us time. Easily worked out and if not, then you probably have bigger issues than the garbage. Yeah, it is all really about individual preferences. Oh, great idea about making plans so that alternative isnt just sitting at home. January 20, 2012, 9:14 am. If not, you need to sort this out. We hope you apply our tips and have many lovely weekends with your husband in the future. January 20, 2012, 9:34 am. GatorGirl She cant change him, so if she doesnt like it, she should probably find someone who wants more couple time. to a point, but there are some things that there is no way around not having a conversation around. Ive put my head in the sand in relationships as well before. If hes home for only Friday and Saturday night and has to leave Sunday afternoon, you can bet we are at their house both Friday and Saturday for a long time, and then they always show up an hour before hes to leave on Sunday. The last few years, he's wanted to go to holidays with his family, it's important to him, and I've wanted to spend my You are still in the early days of this relationship so make sure you are upfront with your expectations. If this has only been going on 3-6 weeks or so she might be just starting to feel the pinch, so it hasnt really come up before this. We just got thru the holidays. i dont know every time i go to assume anything i say the little rhyme to myself in my head. Do people really just walk around with their heads in the sand all day? All rights reserved. First, they have to lead partners to interact with each other in a positive way. And actually what I am promoting is having a casual conversation about things that are important to you to find out where both of you stand. Haha. Because we spent that time communicating (and other stuff, but you dont need to know) it worked perfectly for us. Now he plans for you two to live as close to them as possible. I would plan some things. But, youre not single now. It would be a waste to find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, only to lose the chance to be with them because of your lack of awareness or an inability Or boys night out, so I can stay home and watch the silly teen girl movies like Easy A or Clueless. WebI've also been in a relationship with Tim for three years. If he did this every single night, though, I would not be so supportive, to say the least. Either way, if she doesnt want to be there every weekend, this is the time to discuss it. That scenario is even more likely if your husband is apeople pleaserand doesnt know how to say no. It is what they like to do. This is especially important ifhis parents dont respect boundaries. We have a great relationship and I dont want this issue to grow into such a large issue that I cant handle it anymore one day. If I say Im ready to get home on one of those nights, his dad always makes a comment trying to make me feel guilty for leaving even if weve spent the entire day there. His parents tell him they gave him everything, and he neglected them when he married. Thats what next times are for! Do you ever say hey, I dont want to go, so Im going to stay home this time around, or do you keep your mouth shut with a smile firmly planted on it, rictus and all? I can see his point about just sitting around the house so get out and be a tourist in your hometown. Im torn. Or pick berries. If he lived in town permanently and this was happening every night, I think its a different story but we are talking sporadic weekends over a 2 season period. If I ask him if we can just stay home for the weekend, he will agree but then he will also make me feel like the bad guy for it, and he doesnt understand why its a big deal to go there instead of sitting at home. But, if I were you, I wouldnt go every time. Like hey I can afford around this much, SO says I can afford a little more, so how about I pay a little more of the rent every month so we can get a nicer place? Just because you live together does not mean the dating portion of events is over. You arent happy and yet you stay. Cue unintelligble grumbling. This is typically how this dynamic functions. That was what I meant. Or rob a bank to pay for the more costly dates. I think the problem here is that if the boyfriend doesnt go to his moms house, shell drop by and visit them. He spends 80% of his free time with his parents AND they guilt them when they leave after an entire day AND they show up Sunday morning before he leaves. I have to say, I kind of feel like LW jumped the gun on this one. January 20, 2012, 9:09 am. I do care for his parents and they are nice people but at the same time I want a separate life with just me and my boyfriend. That was seven years ago. Get out and DO something. And I think this is the case here. Its even understandable to spend every weekend with them if someone is terminally ill (or some other similarly serious circumstance). And he was a bore. But according to the LW, they dont have anything else to do.. Well, thats separate problem. And I dont think it is so wrong to assume that things will not change drastically once you move in together. You could always lighten the mood a little by telling them you need time together to practice making their future grandkids. I think you are already there, and having a great relationship *except for this one huge thing I want to change about that person* isnt the same as simply have a great relationship. Yes, this. Then offer a compromise. January 20, 2012, 8:02 am. Heck, some people are just like that. Hes going to choose you. Granted I dont live at home so definitely value all the time I get there, but some people just are more comfortable/prefer being around their family. Trying to see this in another light (or maybe just defending myself haha), I could totally see myself saying oh come on, hang out for a while longer to just about anyone who comes over. I can totally see this though, wanting to chill at the parents. lets_be_honest So make him choose. I love my city, but I also love my home (for clarification, I am referring to my apartment I dont live with or near my parents). The oldest brother, who worked in Belgium a few hours away (and had a nice apartment there) would always, always take the train home as soon as work finished on Friday. If the LW has just been going every weekend without their being discussion, then that has to stop now. I guess then that depends on the LWs definition of a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. Also, the ex use to work on a project, like something with his old truck or building something, or whatever, and I would sit outside by him and read, which is something I enjoyed doing. I agree with you AND Flake, RR.at the same time, if their biggest issue is spending too much time with his parents on the weekends I think theyre probably in pretty good shape. maybe your boyfriend assumes that if you guys dont have plans, you can spend time at his familys. Have you explained that to him? Im not saying anyones wrong, either. You know I was in a similar situation once, my ex and his parents like to see each other a lot more than I liked to see them. January 20, 2012, 9:53 am. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting him to spend more time with her. During football season we spend Saturdays and Sundays, all day, watching football with the same people. Communication is always the basis of solving any problem. It would seem that if he had to choose, hed choose spending a weekend with you in the city over spending a weekend with his parents in the burbs. Is this normal? So you are in a happy relationship, and you both of you decide that you want to take the next step. All I will say is that I could not be with this man. Could that be why theyve been there so much? But the way you spend your money, in my opinion, shouldnt change. Yeah I dont understand what is weird about just talking about it. Laura Hope The pursuer (usually the guy, but not always) realizes that he has gotten the person he wanted, and stops feeling the need to woo herie frequent well-thought-out dates, sweet romantic gestures in the middle of the day, unprompted soliloquizing on how much you mean to him, etc. Tax Geek Make sure that you are sensitive to your husband and your in-laws. My bf is exactly the same and we have a kid he sleeps there tho and we have been together for four year i am at the end of the line now i cant deal with it no more rather than spend the nigt at home with me and his son his mam and dad showrd up and said av come to take u and he had the cheek to ask me as he was already out of the door u alright er no am not alright but get on with it, They are ruinin our relationship we just lost a baby in septemeber and things are just bad i feel lile he doesnt want to be here and doesnt love me cos if he did he wudnt want to be up there he spends 5 out of the 7 days up the in the last two month we have lived together for four years. Just plan something, anything. However, my husband isnt like that at all. My husband just kind of talks to his whenever and really only sees them on holidays. It sounds pretty nice, to me! That way your BF gets to see his parents, and you arent having to schlep back and forth. Im in the same boat. This LW specifically has a problem during the summer/fall months (so 6 months tops, depending where she lives) when he gets to come home *only some weekends* so not every single weekend, and he spends a majority of his time with his family and the LW. Occasionally, this is fine with me and I understand Im not the only person hes away from while hes gone. January 20, 2012, 9:37 am. I am extremely close to my family, I talk to them for the most part at least once a day. Thats precisely how you might feel because you dont want your husband to not see his family at all, but does he have to every weekend? A lot of other things contributed to our divorce, but the parental involvement in our life didnt help. Thats why he wants to help them all the time and probably helps them with various jobs every weekend. a lot of people just arent that way. Just want to put my two cents in: I think its all about communicating. For the first two months we dated, hed go and see his mom for an hour or two during the weekend, because I lived in the same town as she did and as my parents did. Something that youre going to have to communicate about. A lot of family time. muchachaenlaventana Laura Hope I used to joke with Bassanio that Jews and Catholics had a lot in common: the parental guilt. Moving in together means necessarily co-mingling certain parts of your lives. SpaceySteph I had to learn that people mean different things by it. You dont have a problem with that, but does it have to be every weekend? January 20, 2012, 10:52 am. . If so thats just about the worst reason in existence for moving in with a boyfriend. Maybe Im wrong, but the fact that he needs to be there every weekend (although what is significant amounts of time?) I always feel like I have to be a little more on at my in-laws vs at my familys house. realizing that we dont have to spend every minute together and that its ok if we wants to visit his parents for a weekend while I stay home and go out with the girls. No one I know can read minds, I have no idea why LW thinks her boyfriend can. WebSince weve been married and as bf/gf When I ask to spend a weekend or day with my family he says he's too tired. January 20, 2012, 12:44 pm. ), you also like using your weekends to relax and enjoy the city in a way you dont get a chance to do during the busy week. Well, I guess that frame of mind is just not one Im personally willing to take. Oh yeah I forgot to leave out I never see my family at all he spends every holiday with his parents while I sit at home with my children, Skyblossom Now, I usually call my mom once a week and my MIL occasionally. I have a friend whose husband is like this. Thats an attempt at emotional manipulation and its not healthy. It is clear that his family comes first, and your family and your wishes are less important to him. You know what will happen when you make him choose between spending every single weekend in the suburbs with his parents or three weekends a month in the city with you? After a year and a half of this, I asked my ex if we could have a parent-free Sunday, just us. LW I would advise you not to make it seem like you are asking your boyfriend to choose either you or his family. Okay okay. how do we divide furniture? Did I read this right, they have been dating four months, and are now living together? Too much info missing. I really would like to know if this LW is asking to actually do something with her boyfriend and hes flat out refusing. Yeah, I dont see the dysfunction either. ForeverYoung So why are you still with him? But I wouldnt go as far to say he is emotionally dependent and his family is dysfunctional. That's a tricky one as this issue must have crossed your mind when you married someone whose family is in another country - you There have been times where Im ready to leave Peters moms and it takes forever to try to leave and I get annoyed, or if she pops in and Im just not in the mood for company, but I feel like those are just mere annoyances. And please, do not take that literally, I just couldnt come up with a better one. He and I are obviously not together anymore and I bet his new squeeze doesnt mind. Now that they are obviously not, it is definitely time for some conversation. Dear Ann Cannon So my only son and his wife have been married for almost four years. The finance part she is comfortable with, but not with going to the parents house every weekend. It would be a lot of some, but we like it. leilani Does that make sense? I think Ill sit this one out. Simple. It is not wrong to Want to spend time with loved ones, but as an adult you ought to be fair and accommodating of your partner and potential kids. A day at the lake or beach or some body of water? Not normal. LW, how about writing back with the details? The relationship this man has with his family is dysfunctional and heres why. IF you are going to live together you have to learn to communicate and let him know when things bother you. January 20, 2012, 2:04 pm. All your weekend plans are ruined by default because your husband has to spend every weekend with his family. BGM never agrees with the woman. Some things you may never known until you move in together. Thats on you. I know its tough when your fellow is away during the week and you want to see him too but if it stresses you out, take yourself out of the situation. If after that he continues to do the same thing, that tells me that maybe our spending habits may not mesh. June 18, 2014, 9:59 am, Haha, I think this is quite extreme. husband goes to his parents every weekend. June 18, 2014, 11:03 am. I agree with you both. Either way, needs to be talked about, but not insurmountable. He usually wants to go to his parents house every single weekend he gets to come home. and yea, pretty much every single sunday. Lemongrass When family is in town, we spend almost every waking minute visiting. The little things like who is taking the garbage out? Theres a LOT more to this story than meets the eye, and I suspect that the LW and her boyfriend are very different people with very different priorities, and who have both been blinded to these differences by the hot glow of lurve. Hell appreciate her more if she starts acting a little more independently. That is not the way that I would ever want it to be. Not just loving-tight, but codependent-tight. There is a very natural way to spark further conversation on this topic and perhaps get beyond the impasse. Geocaching!!!! They arent her parents. If the relatives of only one spouse are prioritized, the other spouse will be dissatisfied. Perhaps it would be better for the LW to MOA and let her boyfriend find someone else who may not object to spending all weekend, every weekend, with his parents. Well, nobody lives forever, and guess what happens when were all in our 40s-50s? June 18, 2014, 2:59 pm, BIg difference between loving your parents and being codependent on them. And you are right, regardless of anything, if she has a problem with it, he should be able to find a compromise that makes everyone happy. Just remember how he didnt want tomove out of his parents house. artsielady. January 20, 2012, 10:51 am, lets_be_honest FireStar So say to your boyfriend: I dont want to spend weekend nights at [your parents] place more often than maybe once a month, even if we dont have anything else planned. How is this difficult? and second, maybe have a date night once a weekend or something like that, where you dont have the stress of work/school to think about for the next day. But to leave your girlfriend every weekend for no other reason than youd rather spend time with your parents than with her is showing a major red flag. Or he needs to retire to a place where he can enjoy just the feeling of solitary. The thing is, he is grown up and he has chosen to place a large emphasis on his family time. It could be because some people purposely hide some of their not exactly good habits, or because you may never have an opportunity to see the less obvious habits. ReginaRey January 20, 2012, 10:33 am. He has 3 sons two who are 26 (act like lets_be_honest Dont go this weekend. Yea I totally agreethis is a very short timeline. i tried to be supportive when they broke up but i wanted to throw a party. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? January 4, 2021, 3:35 am. and cant get out much, so Drew has dinner with him every week. I can understand both sides. Problem Husband thinks spending Christmas Day just us then dividing the rest of the following week between families is a Growing up, we went over to our grandparents almost every Sunday. (Which she did and he didnt do anything about it.) June 18, 2014, 10:18 am. Theyre lovely people, but I cant seem to get my boyfriend to understand that I dont want to spend weekend nights at their place more often than maybe once a month, even if we dont have anything else planned. I agree something seems off here, because they have lived together ALMOST THREE weeks, and go to his parents house NEARLY every weekend, but only since they have lived together. It isnt every weekend though, he is gone every week, coming home only some weekends. I thought the same thing. lets_be_honest Its really hard taking care of yourself after a divorce, if you dont have a good career or come from a wealthy family. Spare yourself and him a relationship that makes you both resentful. Before the pandemic we used to visit every few weeks and celebrate holidays together. But I dont think giving him an ultimatum me or them is the best way to try to improve the situation. Because the simple fact that you are moving in together means things will not just continue as they are. Those conversations should have happened before. AKchic I try to suggest fun things to do but its as if he doesnt feel like doing them. The finance issue, however, would bother me more at this point. And obviously, Im also someone who is really close with family. I think the commenters who speak of the bf feeling settled and not having to date any more are correct. If you spent every weekend together in the city before you lived together, it would seem that thats something he enjoys doing. Bring it up and communicate your feelings and desires. I do think that the way the boyfriend and his parents are trying to make the LW feel guilty for wanting to spend time away from the boyfriends parents is a red flag. They never left the apartment unless they had to for school more or less, and they always came straight home. Im very independent , so it doesnt bother me too much just because I do my own thing anyway but it is still frustrating. He will want to know why and you will answer that you have explained before that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. I think it gives both of us an opportunity to have some alone time. In fact, this couple isnt married, so they arent even her in-laws. SpaceySteph Lemongrass LW, you are not being unreasonable! Next time, instead of going on trips together, try eating out or going for a picnic. It also gets you out of the house so that, when his parents drop by, too bad, you arent there. i really disliked him. He likely will turn into the bf, or if they marry the husband, who is the stay-at-home couch potato, while LW pines for outside the home activities. Laura Hope No he actually does not spent 80% of time at his parents. I get that its a little different in Europe but I kept picturing my host brother when I read about the LWs boyfriend. In a typical family dynamic there are common roles assumed by different individuals. In my experience, if you manage to schedule some quality couple time whatever activity counts as that for you every weekend, youre likely to care much less about visiting the in-laws etc. They were dating, they were both happy, so I think they both assumed that thinks will be the same once they move in together. I get that many dont, but I dont think thats dysfunctional. My dad did this too, until he met his fiance and she moved in with him. Our favorite free activity is to find new parks/trails in our area and spend the afternoon on them. If you dont say anything, how in the hell is he supposed to know anything is wrong? Laura Hope January 20, 2012, 5:36 pm. wendyblueeyes If it doesnt work for you LW, then this might be a dealbreaker. Alone time doesnt have to be at home (even if its sex wink wink), and if youre not there, they cant drop by! Tell him youre staying home this weekend. We dont know for sure whether or not bf goes to his parents as his first choice of weekend activities or if he is a bit wimpy in dealing with his parents and cant say no to the invitation couched in terms of well, you said you didnt have anything planned. January 20, 2012, 9:54 am. If the situation is even more complicated, for example, if his parents are old or his siblings have problems, your husband will feel even more guilty for leaving them. But what Im truly wondering is if this difference in opinion over how to spend the weekends is reflective of other big differences between you two that you didnt have time to learn before you moved in together. WebGoing every weekend with a 6 hour drive is a lot, but if he feels like thats what he wants to do then he should. Although that is a great idea, unfortunately, those plans arent going to work for me as my boyfriend likes to tag along his parents whenever he goes on trips. A lot of Saturdays, we saw the other set. When I lived in Paris my host siblings were like that. But Im a very direct, honest, forthright, loud kind of person. As for the LWs sitch, its only been a few weeks. I know how he feels about adoption because he shared his feelings on it during a discussion I started simply saying someday Id love to adopt and really hope it will happen. Just over coffee, no contracts or anything. 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