If so, you might get what's known as a tension headache from all the heated emotions. I am sometimes even tempted to leave her because she is holding me down (work/school). She clearly doesnt love you like one should love another person. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. She is very complexed about her weight, her mental issues and the time she has lost in her life. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. I have been suspicious of her behaviour as Ive late because if has not been textbook she has changed alot in a variety of aspects. She didnt want to go to my graduation. Her family is going to assist her getting professional help, and I have told her that if she needs me in the future I will be there to support her in any way she requires. I didt wanted help, I didnt wanted to tell people how sad I am (and that I dont know why) to anyone. I started to seek too much attention, because it felt finally a lille bit good to have this attention. My girlfriend has been depressed for 3 years. My boyfriend is like this, before I met him I was very depressed, self harmed, tried taking my own life but one day I met him I felt instantly happy I never felt this, however he left me for his ex girlfriend and I felt hopeless again. It takes a huge amount of love to do that. please help! My suggestion is start having a quality of life before it is to late , love is wonderful when it is growing but it can be hell if it is one sided. We can all get through this. This could mean adding individual and/or group therapy to her treatment regimen, trying a new therapeutic approach, or making a change to her medication. all of our arguments come from her depression and her being in a bad mood, i can only sometimes cheer her up. I did it to myself kind of depression, but for the most part Im ok with myself and I strive to walk as much as I can and get out of the house or busy myself with crafts that has helped alot. From hair trends to relationship advice, our daily newsletter has everything you need to sound like a person whos on TikTok, even if you arent. The burden on caretakers is significant, and there is great therapeutic value in realizing you are not alone. Long distance, depressed girlfriend, university, feeling trapped, spending too much time and sacrificing too many things for the happiness of the other person in the relationship. Just because shes depressed, Ive got depressed. A key sign of depression from relationships is low self-esteem because your partner puts you down or makes you feel bad about yourself. she is unable to talk to you to achieve closeness because of all she had to deal with in her head so she compensate this lack of connection by wanting more sex (sex is expression of the highest level of acceptance and intimacy with other person after all and you dont have to talk during this action) and when you refuse, because of the depressed state and has low self-esteem that accompanies it, she treats it like rejection. We do talk through alot of things and have a somewhat open dialogue, but I still feel resentful and angry when i feel shes not there for me, something i dont seem to get over, despite wanting to. It is very sad when a very good man like me just happens to have very bad luck with women when i really shouldnt at all. Mariella Frostrup tells him to stop always looking on the bright side. See what I. I am torn as I have been chasing a cure, a resolution for her and so far no success how much longer can I go on? She wont tell me whats going on. Let her take the step and compliment her if she completes it. If you are tired or stressed I cant do sex. Unfortunately, there seems to be nothing I can do when she feels down. I do not see a future with her but I get so torn up at the thought of leaving her to her depression and her situation, Im in the exact same situation as you gaz. At first I was stressed about it, but later I realised that my worrying wouldnt change the situation at all. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. Things are never as simple as you think. I dont mind being a caretaker.. but it has to be for someone who also cares about me. Setup Size: 8.9 GB. But, I love her and I want to support her I dont want to turn my back on her. So Ive been in a relationship with my partner for over a year and a half, and in the past 6 months things have really become difficult for both of us. So you see, these emotions are complicated, you have trace them few steps back to understand what is really going on. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. Now she stopped the medications for a month ago, and still no affection what so ever. Here are 10 who are holding you down. My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down Wellbeing Medicines Pregnancy & Parenting Conditions Follow Ask the expert My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down I am living. Also, Im placed as the general emotional support to everyone around me. You may also try this, what my boyfriend did: he said he is leaving me cause it is too hard for him, he left me for two painful days, then he told me that he will be back, but in some time. 6. ), it can really start to drag you down. Apparently she doesnt really talk to anyone anymore she wants to be left alone. Reading all these comments makes me very sad and confused. She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. We stopped having sex last year because of her trauma. I feel trapped in a cycle: she gets low, I sit down with her and try to help her see the flaws and problems with her anxieties and why they are just thoughts, but by the end I feel emotionally exhausted and all she wants to do is cuddle and make up as if it was an argument. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? She cannot afford therapy. That sounds like my issue too. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. I have high blood pressure because of her. Anyway, now we are almosr 3 yrs together and from the start of this year she finally admited being alcoholic and she started treatment process, with medications and therapy. I am now self harming and am depressed myself and still having to work 3 jobs I am now going to see a Councillor I can ill afford and I have no one to say dont go to work I will look after you. My Girlfriends Depression Is Bringing Me Down. She lives 200 km away from me and Dragged Down. Tristen, Armand, sounds like your girlfriends have real life boyfriends too. This makes any conversion on other topics nearly impossible or difficult until her anxieties about her health are addressed. If you have trouble finding a professional in your area, dont be discouragedit may mean youll have better luck doing a Google search or asking for a referral from a trusted health professional, such as your doctor. And thats happiness isnt even happiness half the time, its just a less bad mood. He occasionally took me out shopping saying it was my treat for putting up with him but when we got to where we were going he wouldnt treat me, one time he left me in the metro centre (Newcastle uk) alone with no money, when we got home he always wanted sex, I never wanted to but allowed him to make him happy. And the woman that i am dating right now which i do hope that my relationship lasts with her since like i mentioned earlier i really do love her very much. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. I need to know, I was engaged to get married to her but we called it off. Also over the years I have cancelled so many plans with friends to take time to help her that I have lost contact and have become depressed myself about my loneliness. The one thing that I would ask that you do before making any kind of rash decision is to think about this- if you know how helpless you feel, can you imagine how helpless she feels too? I'm just not the same. Ive never been so stressed and sad and angry my whole life. she knows im here for her. She is quiet, shy, passive/aggressive yet bubbly she would do anything and everything instantaneously for me, great girl! DUMP THE SAD GIRL OTHERWISE SHE WILL DRAG YOU DOWN. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. She will feel a million times worse than you what about how the other side feel and how they cant cope but just have to sit and wait for them to snap out of by the time they snap out of it they could be going to their partners funeral or word they wont be able to then look after their partner. I see her every weekend, during the week I keep to myself play video games, homework, go over to a friends for a beer. I hate her anxiety. Like, a supermodel could walk by and your partner wouldn't bat at an eye. I know what it feels like to be distant, but I have extra credit for you because you are near her but yet you still get the cold shoulder. She experienced child sexual trauma and suffers from depression and ptsd. Yes, "envier" is a word. A trusted therapist will help you thoroughly explore these questions, develop insights, and create and implement a plan of action. "When youre stressed, your heart starts pumping blood faster through your veins to give you energy to deal with that perceived threat," said Marcelina Hardy on BettyConfidential.com. I did anything to help her, yet there seems to be no progress. I m still jobless for more than 2yrs thinking about her problems all the time.i can marry her after getting a good job.i feel like my life is hell and but I am not selfish too. She felt distanced by me, but in no way did i feel any different toward her. Look Ive been dealing with depression for years as well and yes at times i feel a bit hopeful and at other times i just want to die. 1992 - Video directed by Dani Jacobs. There was a point in my life when it was obvious I needed to address my depression which exposed itself as anger and Ive been waiting 5 years for her to have the same epiphany. Hey i am in a LDR and i need your help my gf is also depressed, she doesnt tell the stuff she is going through, yea she tells me most of the things but not that. The medications side effect is sex blocking, also with her off alcohol her mind cant deal with emotions as other people, so basicly we had like 3 times sex this year. I cant stay wit her anymore. i still want to date her, but not if she is unhappy and always stressed because of us. There are so ways people find happiness and you guys both just need to find yours and you need to know that one day.. You will. Now I am questioning myself whether to leave her or hold her.whether she ll feel better later on if I suppose leave her. I took on too much. Thank you for sharing. Im there for her and she knows it. A. I have been through many websites reading about relationship breakdowns when a partner is depressed and the most common thing is how the non depressed partner is feeling totally drained and feel their life has gone down hill leading them down the road to depression. Friends are pretty intuitive in that they know immediately when something isn't right. Dry spells happen a lot. Am I taking the wrong approach? Step by step. Peace, Man, you guys are explaining my life. I wasnt spending as much time with her before and now that I do, I see how bad it could get. Let she feels that you are proud of her. it takes a lot of courag and resolve to stick around and be supportive to your partner and youve done that.kudos to that.please see that you have been strong and supportive for so long so you cannot think you will break.be confident and seek better outlets.therapy can help in a major way as I have seen.all the best. "Trust is lost and conflict often results in anger and finger pointing." Take it as a hint that things need to change. Most of her adult life was spent trying to stabilize from bipolarity. She probably wants you to make a call. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, Im going through a similar thing, Ive been with my girlfriend for 4 years, shes been through childhood trauma, depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, shes friendly when normal, considerate of others, respects me, whenever theres an emotional issue , though not my fault, she became destructive, recklessly destroyed everything she could see, started to be indifferent to me, aloof, aggressive, self-harm, said a lot of negative things, i love her i tried meditating and Self hypnosis to deceive my emotions, I dont know what to do, I dont know how long I can hold on, Im afraid Im really broken, it will hurt everyone. It also seems like you have come to the realization that this situation is not sustainable and that something must change. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. My Girlfriend's Depression Is Bringing Me Down. Am I giving up too quickly, am I weak, am I selfish I really dont know what I should do or feel right now. Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. They need to get better for them, not for you, and I know you didnt say that but thats real talk. She has lost sleep all night, and so did I. Break up. I am essentially a caretaker now. When I asked her if she wanted to go get some food, ice cream the mall,she said no for so many reasons. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. 1 shes too lazy 2 her parents dont let her. Remember the love bit. Even though we are long distance, I am finding it impossible to go on, and as I am at university, if I keep this up my grades are going to slip. of each person. Do a "deep search" instead. Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. somewhere inside you still know that too, its a natural instinct. Its one thing to be committed to someone and another to keep trying only to see they themselves keep failing back into the same pattern. However, i was in a grade above her and graduated and proceeded to get a job so i could support our lives, this made texting hard as i had very early starts and it was very physically and mentally tiring work, however i still texted her as much as possible. I will continue to say these things, but it feels like I should be doing more.). So tell someone, it wont just save her life, but also yours. 3. Ask yourself if you truly want to continue in the relationship. I even offered to pay for the consultation costs. Long distance relationships where you rarely/never meet in person are not really the same thing. Taken from Revenge Of The Goldfish. Stress can cause all sorts of problems. Sounds to me like a bunch of spoiled princesses. I am having the same issue and the text is most definitely NOT part of an image. Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. My girlfriend is dragging me back into depression with her own personal problems. Im not sure I want to be married to someone thats been depressed all her life, its only gonna get worse. You need to ask is that what you want for the rest of your life. I dont want to get to the point of carer for her or to resent her because of her condition. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? So that he loves himself. She was not like this when we first met. And in one point of last month,she gave me a talk about how love is stupid and its just a distraction and that it doesnt last forever. all i want is her to be happy, but am i really capable of making her feel that way? If you have solution, you are God for me:(, I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. I looked it up. i dont know what to do. i cant let her go and i know she cant let me go either. Ad by TruthFinder Have you ever googled yourself? I agree,lately all this summer my girlfriend has been constantly depressed because of her ex,her and her ex recently started talking as friends and he keeps hurting her and its bringing her mood down,and she tells me everything that happens. And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). Shell probably choose you at first but then once she goes back to try and be friends with the ex, end that shit. I have become very weary, weak and helpless toward her, every piece of support I give her is taken with offence, as an insult of her character or some other negative quam brewed inside her hyperactive mind. Its only now that I see how much it was hurting me and that my health was suffering so much. He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. does anyone have any pointers or ideas? As I read your comments I am beginning to understand what my boyfriend feels. So he . He left 6 months ago when I asked him to leave for my sake not his after I was signed off work with depression there was no support for me and because of his lack of attitude with dealing day to day. To lower the quality, character, or value of something or someone: His disruptions are dragging down the performance of the other students. Its bad and I feel so trapped. Ive got a life, I want to be happy, to love, I am strong, I am bold, and I cant seem like to help her anymore, she doesnt want to, shes just getting away from me, Im losing her. girlfriend is dragging me down I feel that my girlfriend is dragging me down and although she's happy in the relationship I'm not. Seeing the change in her every day life and general well-being has been nothing short of a complete shock to me. I do everything I can to help her, but I feel like I'm just propping her up, and despite the medications she's taking she doesn't seem to ever improve. Breaking up is my last option but a considerable option because the fact that she is just not paying attention to me, everything is about her and her thoughts only. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . Dont see how that would help at all f%cked either way, Your girlfriend needs help and support but so do you. Look man its getting to the point where youre gunna have to tell some form of authority, whether it be the police or something else either way, shes gunna bring you down if nothing changes and youll become just like her in a flash. I did every single thing that you guys have written here. She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. This is verbatim my situation. "More importantly, there is balance in the relationship. You are helpful to them by being there when they need you. If she wanted to cheat that is her choice. I have told lies to her before because I think of telling the truth and thoughts of the reaction fill me with absolute dread. You are NOT responsible for the thoughts, feelings, or behaviors or others. I experience the exact same thing you are talking about with my girlfriend for one year. This girl was everything I wanted, such a good partner, listener, so smart, sensitive. So I fight. 16 Hard Launch Caption Ideas That'll Break The Internet, These 3 Zodiac Signs Are The Biggest Flirts, According To Astrologers, 45 Quotes Thatll Inspire You During Womens History Month, Get Even More From Bustle Sign Up For The Newsletter. I am not sure if Im still with her for love, for the codependency that has definitely developed or simply because I have been doing this so long I dont know any different, I have almost the exact same problem. Thanks for your testimony Ching. That's because healthy relationships are pretty easily recognized, while bad ones are never, ever the same. It almost feels as though she is in a better mood when I am down! (Yikes.). Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! Just stay focused on your ultimate goal with her and never lose site of how she was before depression. Setup Type: Offline Installer / Full Standalone Setup. Having your sh$t together isnt exactly essential for survival anymore. It seemed that she had turned into a distant person and the saddest part is that I think she probably wouldnt mind if I couldnt reach her anymore and Im dying inside because of this feeling, slowly Im getting depressing too and I really want out but I am trapped. Maybe she doesnt want to tell you how much she wants you to be with her because she doesnt want to appear needy. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. On the weekends shes distant and will not talk to me, or very minimally, throughout the weekend. I agreed but this has left me with nothing to do, leaving my friends was a massive mistake! Nothing you can do to help. We r loving since 5-6 years! Warm regards, It may be time to step back and focus on yourself. Youve been shouldering a significant burden on your own for years; it sounds like you are ready to let someone help you carry the load. My Friend Is Draining Me! but she made fun of me she said she wasnt going to read this BS. So are yours always casting concerned looks? Posted October 5, 2013 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan Question: Hi Irene, My BFF and I have been friends since high school. "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. If your partner dominates every aspect of your shared lives, you may be in a draining relationship. You have to start working on it, push things forward. I have honoured her decision to sort this out alone. I ask if theres someone else, she says no. My sleep have been deprived for over 6 months. I started to be rude and aggressive. She relies on me sitting down and talking sense to her, but I too feel like a caretaker, an older sibling or even a parent sometimes. AND finally, when everything feels fine, she doesnt acknowledge anything that happened. Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. When I have some me time to save my soul from drowning because of her, she said that I was selfish for leaving her for, like, a day! As Dr. Sylvie Stacy said on Livestrong.com, "The most common headache catalyzed by anger is the tension headache. During the relationship, she refused to be medicated or to be accompanied by a psychologist. Ive explained my feelings in the past and she says she understands but makes no difference. To go cold turkey off 3 different anti depressants can someone die by doing that? But youre so young and its not very obvious but so many people go through this at some point in their lives because life truly is pretty messed up. She also will fail in it, many times, probably hurting you, but she will go on. She has told me that my love and support has made her feel so special and that Im an amazing guy that deserves to be happy, and I believe her. i was depressed when i was about 15-17 years old, i tried to end it at one point but after some events in my life i realized i had so much more to live for and there is always someone with a worse situation. We r loving since 5-6 years! It sounds like you have been a tremendous source of love, strength, and support for your girlfriend in her battle with depression. She talks like Im the only good thing in her life and I believe she truly feels that way. Sometimes through the foggy clouds of depression its hard to see if a person really likes you, but dont worry too much. As time went on our texts started to get more and more one sided as i would ask about her day and i would help her with any problems she had, but she would always start complaining about her problems and never actually talking about mine. She might even need help to physically move some of the bigger items out (like a couch). I really hope that it is it. I dont want to leave her, as a friend she needs me more than anything, but I need to figure out a way to help us both (I know Im not going to fix her issues, but just being around saying the same thing over and over again like I love you or everything going to be okai doesnt seem like its doing anything at all. Im not really looking for advice with this, just getting something off my chest to the world. Tomorrow my lady and I would be ten months not quite a year, but things have switched off lately. She is a no bullshit chick that has always been completely honest with me about everything and this is no exception. I dont know if that is the case with you too. Wow. As long as your eyes are open. The fact that shes still hanging around him enforces that theyve cheated. She blames herself for everything, and says incredibly negative and hurtful things about her self. The specific mention of medication but not therapy makes me wonder whether your girlfriend is in therapy. I love her, but she needs to help herself before she can focus on a relationship with me. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. And before you know it has someone paying for half or all of her bills. We list further resources on this page:https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html, If you would like to get in touch with a therapist, you can search our directory for mental health professionals in your area: goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. We talked (argued) about the lack of sex and how distant we are and she said that she doesnt feel any of these feelings, and that sometimes we doesnt feel comfortable thinking about sex. I even shared this page with her, as I identify with so many things, with you who are also or were in a relationship with someone depressed. I dont know if you know Jesus, and sorry if I sound like a religious nutcase now but Im really trying to help you. I think this is the best for us at this time, as I read up in this thread I see a lot of pain caused to both people as time goes on and I dont want that to happen to either of us. Shes 30, Im 26, she never had a boyfriend, nor had sex or drugs nor anything. The GoodTherapy.org Team. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. She just dont know how to do this. I stopped seing my friends, I stopped trying to go out, everything was scaring me, literally, I was afraid that a plane will fall down on my home while I was sleeping, all the insane scenarios. Tissue Issues: My Friend Is Dragging Me Down. I used to be able to help her cheer up and have a good time with her whenever she was sad but now,I cant do anything without getting an attitude from her or saying something stupid. Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. One day she wanted to elope Bcos she feared the crowd at our wedding and the next day she just broke it off completely with no reasons. Understand that put-downs are a reflection of the other person's insecurity and get support from trusted confidantes. Or sit down and plan something new to try. And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. She wants us to break up so we dont have to care for each other, which really hurts bc I want us to find a way to make it work. One Direction - Drag Me Down (Official Video)Follow on Spotify - https://1D.lnk.to/SpotifyListen on Apple Music - https://1D.lnk.to/AppleMusicListen on Amazo. I fought with my boyfriend just to feel close to him for a while, to be able to talk. I am very patient and always will be because in my mind we love each other and relationship may not be perfect sometimes but thats okay in my eyes. At the end of the day, I just believe that depression was just an excuse. All i see now is cold person who i love and so frustrated by the lack of intimacy. When you've had too much on your plate for a long time, behaviors in your partner that would normally be slightly irritating can feel like major disruptions to your peace of mind. The couple times I have plucked up the courage to leave she has done drastic forms of self harm. But I feel so guilty and ashamed and like a failure for wanting this and I dont know what to do. But i just seem lost and i need answers, idk if i was harsh and Im totally new at this so Im sorry if i was being harsh and all but plz help. She has issues with everyone including mine and her family. Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. All rights reserved. I consider myself in recovery. Then she started talking that her family pressured her, about the meds and that she loved me, but had a really hard time. my health is declining. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. It works for me (I dont really have a hobby Im just at school all the time). When asked I would avoid the answer because I really didnt know, and when forced, probably I would put the blame on someone else or act with aggression. 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